How to make your home an Oasis!

Let’s face it, we are all very very VERY busy people.  It’s the bi-product of our culture. We want to do everything and be everywhere at the same time. I find it extremely hard to balance being a successful independent woman and being Betty homemaker. You know her right? She was most of our grandmothers or mothers. She was the stay at home mom that was able to manage everything at the house, with the family, and not even break a sweat. I salute her because that’s a tough job.

My Grandmother Jane Luke looking Glamorous!

Unlike most moms in the 60’s and 70’s, my grandma Jane was a working woman. She was a businesswoman and she was somehow able to balance most of the activities needed to be taken care of at home. I don’t want to say that it was easier then, but it was certainly simpler. We have so much more going on, especially since the introduction of social media. The question is: How do WE do it?

I think if we could somehow transform into Wonder Woman or Supergirl that would be the ultimate solution. But unfortunately science hasn’t figured out how to make us superheroes.

Over the last few months my husband Pete and I have slowly been integrating things into our daily routine together to make our home feel more like an oasis than a hazard zone (just don’t look at my closet).  Here are some hacks that help us.


Interior Design by Andrew Moss

Ok to be honest with you I never made my bed growing up. I didn’t think it was important to make a bed that you were going to leave empty all day, only to come back and get in it again. But when my husband and I moved into our new place we became those people with tons of pillows on our bed. Let me tell you it’s amazing. And, if you don’t have extra pillows, go to Marshalls or TJMaxx and pick up a few. I promise, it changes everything. EVERYTHING!  We now wake up and the last person in bed has to make the bed. The feeling I get when I walk into my bedroom during the day and see my beautiful tidy bed makes me so happy. I feel like I’m at a resort and I just can’t wait to crawl into my comfortable little sheets at the end of the day. It just makes me feel less stressed out and at the end of the day I can truly relax. When I’m pulling the pillows off to get into bed, that is the moment my brain realizes that it’s time to go to sleep and everything else will have to wait until tomorrow.


Fresh Flowers at the entrance of my house

I stole this idea from a friend of mine. She would buy herself a beautiful bouquet of flowers at the end of every week. She would say it was the one thing she would do for herself to let her mind know she had accomplished something that week. I loved this!  I think often we are under the impression that our significant others have to buy us flowers. Maybe it’s something that every single movie has put into our heads. Noooo. We are able to buy ourselves flowers and even pick out our favorite flowers and even spend more than $19.99 on flowers. I made this practice a necessity. I placed a vase right when you walk into my home and I always make sure its full of fresh flowers. So as soon as they start to wilt I know it’s time to treat myself. I feel like it brings more life into my home. You have beautiful flowers to look at that help provide inspiration and calmness throughout your busy days.


My handtowels from Anthropologie
My handtowels from Anthropologie

This idea seems so simple but I know you know what a mountain of dishes looks like. It’s horrible, scary and just makes you want to cry when you know it’s finally time to do dishes. We thankfully have a dishwasher in our new place which has been life changing. If we use a dish we put it in the dishwasher. My dad taught me a trick to hang a hand towel over the dishwasher door when the dishes are dirty so that everyone is on the same page.  I picked out cute little towels from Anthropologie because I knew I would be looking at them a lot. If you don’t have a dishwasher, which I didn’t have until 4 months ago, then you just have to make it a practice. It’s a lot easier to wash the dishes as you go and takes way less time than letting them pile up. A clean and tidy sink will make you want to use your kitchen and eat it in. It might even help you save some money and that’s always the number one goal.


I say this for your own sanity: if you have bare white walls in your home, stop what you are doing (after you finish reading this post?) and go to Target or IKEA and buy a painting to hang on the wall. This is something a lot of people don’t take the time to do. They become to busy and never get around to it. At the end of the day where do you end up? Your home or apartment!  Decorate however you feel necessary, but make sure you put a little bit of yourself into those decorations. Buy art or mirrors and put them on the walls. When you have a tough day it will drastically improve your mood to go home to a decorated place. Going home to naked white walls is only going to make you feel even worse.


My Favorite candles in the world
My Favorite candles in the world

I love candles!  I would definitely say that I collect candles. Every time I’m in a store I walk away with one. They are weird little things.  Just a can of wax that we light and it smells really pretty.  We use them for romantic moments or when the power goes out. But who says you shouldn’t use them every single day? You should. Just lighting a candle whose scent you love when you are cooking, cleaning, or watching TV will make you happy. You picked that scent because it made you feel something in the first place; so light some candles and take in an aroma that brings you joy. You deserve it!

I know we are all super busy. I’m writing this blog post at jury duty right now. Working for the man and and working for myself. But it’s important that you take the time to make your house a place you want to be. A place that you truly enjoy. Not only will it drastically improve your life but it will save you a lot more money. You won’t want to escape your house, you will want to escape to your house. Thanks for reading!

Health, wealth and happiness,

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